Just so the title of this post doesn't freak anyone out, let me say up front that everything with the baby is fine. I just got back from our 38 week appointment, and all is well. The baby is happy . . . but now it's getting to the point that he/she is too happy in here for my taste! Our doctor didn't see any signs of impending labor. No dilation, no baby dropping into the pelvis, nada. So, as you can probably tell from the tone of this post thus far, I'm somewhat bummed.
The reason this is a bit frustrating is because the baby books say that most first-time moms experience at least some of these things a couple weeks or so before birth time. Now, it's not a given by any means, and our doctor tried to remind us of that today. Some people never experience any signs of labor in the weeks or days before it starts. But, as far as I understand, the majority of first-time moms do. So, that's the frustration.
Now, as I've been saying all along, I'm not at all miserable or desperate to have this pregnancy over with. I certainly have tough days from time-to-time, but I'm doing quite well overall. So, you might ask, what's the rush? Well, I just want to meet the baby!!!!! I want to meet him or her and start the process of getting to know who this person is. Enough already with the mystery! I want to say, "I know you're comfy in there, but it's way cooler and more interesting out here!" Also, due to the fact that I can feel so physically different from day-to-day, I'm not working anymore, and I must admit that I feel like a bit of a slacker sitting around here on the days that I feel just fine.
The rational side of my brain, however, is saying that "the baby will arrive when conditions are optimal for him or her to do so." I've been saying all along that I don't want to induce labor unless it's medically necessary, and now I really need to stand firm with that. Mother Nature knows what she's doing. Our O.B. says that because there's some medical evidence that the uterus and placenta sometimes start to decline in their baby-nurturing qualities at about 42 weeks, they would begin taking steps to make sure that I deliver before then. So, at most, I have a month to go. But come on!!!!!
6 comments:
Wow, you sure are pregnant!
I can imagine your impatience... But as you were saying last time we chatted, the crucial thing is to look past all of the "details" that are perhaps not precisely what you'd want them to be, and concentrate on what IS precisely what you, and any woman, would want: the baby is healthy; you're healthy; you're priveleged as hell to have the option to rest through the last weeks of your pregnancy...
All is really, REALLY well! So hang in there. Once the tyke is out in the world, and screaming and pooping (along with all the cute and fun stuff, there will be the screaming and the pooping), maybe every now and then you'll miss these quiet, lazy days... Enjoy them while you got 'em! Take it easy, take care of yourself, and make your husband wait on you hand and foot.*
*which would not, of course, be so different than normal... :)
Oops: "privileged."
From the perspective of a Dad with a 20 month old girl . . . enjoy these moments. Life will be great with the new baby, but it's also great now. Also, as much as you will get to see you new baby when he she is born, you won't really get to know your spawn for a few months. New babies are cute to look at, but don't really have a lot going on. If you are mostly comfortable, the baby is healthy, and you are finding time to make extra preparations, life is GREAT! Enough advise, though. You are going through the same things we went through. It's so exciting. Becoming a parent is the highlight of my life. You have so much to look forward to.
Thanks so much, Jo and Sam, for your helpful and thoughtful words. I really do appreciate it. It's useful to calm down and take a deep breath and realize that the life we knew is, in many ways, coming to an end very soon. Why rush that?
--Cara
Thanks, Sam! I also heard that you have a second coming! That is so very cool!!! We should talk soon. Keep in touch!
Cara - you are a beautifully glowing pregnant lady! Blogging your wonder about the days to come is so very healthy. and will be a treasure for the little person that will one day be big!
Be sure to take time to breathe, giving lots of oxygen and love to your baby!
Much love, Di
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